Are you having issues talking about your feelings to the one you love? Does your partner run the opposite each whenever you try? recent research says, talking about your feelings is not the single effective way for couples to stay happy together. In fact, there are several ways to better emotional communication and improve your relationship.
Let’s begin with starting small talk. You may believe talking about a new car or even politics is far from connecting emotionally, but research tells us these supposedly petty details are actually more likely to strengthen your close emotional attachment to your partner than a deep and heavy discussion of your feelings.
You may also believe you know all the bits and pieces of your partner’s life, but it’s a way of growing closer. If you want to talk about yourself, that’s even fine as long as you don’t take all of the air. Keeping a healthy balance between talking and listening is tough in most relationships, but even more challenging as you get to know each other, so it’s a must that the two of you get are able to to talk and listen.
Listening is an actual skill, by the way, and you can enhance yours through a method referred to as “active listening.” This is a form of listening where you acknowledge not just that you are listening, but that you also understand what the other is saying.
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Understanding could be communicated with a smile or a few words, like “I see” – if you did really understand. Interestingly, interruptions for clarification or even disagreements may also be involved in active listening.
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If you interrupt, remember to ask permission. “Sorry, I need to ask you a question” is a good way to do it. Then ask something that is obviously relevant to what your partner was talking about. If you are not agreeable to the overall concept or with their manner of handling a particular situation, wait until they are done speaking before you raise your disagreement. If you must seek to be clarified on something, tell them nicely, careful not to sound accusatorial.
The moment you know of some of the veiled shared moments you’re having with your loved one, search for ways to spend more “insignificant” experiences together from day to day. If you or your partner is not that good at expressing your feelings or even talking about your day’s most mundane details, that'(s not a problem. Read the first few paragraphs again.
Take note that simply spending time with your partner doing seemingly useless things, such as reading the paper together or listening to music, is far more beneficial to your relationship than direct discussions about your feelings.